Monday, January 19, 2009

Thanks, Vatican II!


I just came across this article and I thought my 2 readers might find it funny. And sad.

Mostly sad. It's kind of long, so go here, read it and come back to discuss. Here's the beginning with my emphasis:

WHEN BONNIE LAVRIC WAS GROWING UP IN A PHILADELPHIA SUBURB IN THE MID-1960S, her mother, father, and four siblings dutifully piled into their VW Beetle every Saturday for an afternoon drive. The destination? Weekly individual Confessions at their local parish. Though Lavric somberly remembers being intimidated by the dark, musty confessional with its heavy red curtain, she recalls the drive to church as having elements of both a lighthearted road trip and a sobering guilt trip.

“My siblings and I tried to remember all of the heinous things we had done that week,” she says. “Sometimes we would punch each other on the way over so we would have something to say."

“The road to the church was really bumpy,” she recalls. “And every time the car went over a bump, we’d yell out, ‘Whee!’ And then we would be chastised because we were supposed to be concentrating on our sins. There were a lot of conflicting things going on in that car.”

The road to Confession, for Lavric, was somewhat bumpy on a deeper level, too. “It was all very confusing and uncomfortable and scary. I don’t remember it being positive at all,” she says.

These days, Lavric, now 47 and living in Dublin, Ohio, has a different view of the sacrament. She uses words like “remarkable” and “rejuvenating” to describe her experiences of Reconciliation and celebrates the sacrament three to four times a year. What changed her outlook, she says, was revisiting Reconciliation as each of her five children experienced it for the first time. “Growing up, there was more hellfire and brimstone,” Lavric says, “But now the focus is more on the fact that I am forgiven.”

Lavric now regularly makes time for Reconciliation, as do many young parents who wish to set a good example for their children preparing to experience the sacrament. But the family drive to church for Saturday Confessions is now a thing of the past, and the Catholic population at large doesn’t exactly mirror Lavric’s wholehearted embrace of Reconciliation. In fact, Catholics are split almost down the middle. A 2003 survey of over 1,000 Catholics, conducted by sociologists James Davidson and Dean Hoge, indicates that while 46 percent of Catholics celebrate Reconciliation once a year or more, 53 percent never or almost never do. In addition, only 38 percent of Catholics say that private Confession to a priest is “essential to [their] vision of being Catholic.”

In a 2001 article in Commonweal magazine Boston College historian James O’Toole wrote: “We seem to be in the process of reducing the number of sacraments from seven to six—by default.” A closer look at the “most endangered sacrament” reveals that, though there are signs of hope, this trend isn’t likely to reverse itself anytime soon.

Through new eyes
Despite the widespread national decline in the celebration of Reconciliation, parents of young children are still willing to revisit the sacrament as their children prepare to receive it for the first time, often because parish programs require it. Parents often find that their children’s preparation differs drastically from the doom-and-gloom, anxiety-ridden lens through which they were taught to view Confession. Tom Weed of Merrillville, Indiana noticed this difference when he attended preparation sessions with his 7-year-old son.

“When I was young we were taught to be afraid,” says Weed, 45. “But my son was taught that this is a very loving and giving thing, a gift he is receiving. The understanding of God giving total forgiveness was pushed a lot more.”

Mike Madonna, a father of two living in Old Bridge, New Jersey, also noticed a fresh perspective in his son’s sacramental preparation.

“It was a lot more kid-friendly, a happy occasion, and my son was so excited,” says Madonna. “What I remember more from my parish growing up was, ‘You are going to get punished. Say your rosary and Our Fathers.’”

When Sean Going, 39, of Medford, Massachusetts attended his parish service for his son’s First Reconciliation, he couldn’t believe his eyes.

“After the children went it was tremendous to see the number of parents who took part in the sacrament as well,” he says. “I don’t know when I’ve seen so many people go to Reconciliation.”

In attending the preparation sessions for his son’s first Reconciliation, Going noticed that his parish emphasized a more relational approach to the sacrament than he had been taught as a child. “It focused more on it being another method of communicating with God,” he says. “Back in my day it was, ‘Get in there and confess your sins.’ ”

Claire Lane, 38, of Gaithersburg, Maryland, learned that Reconciliation takes place within the context of a relationship with God, but also within a worshiping community. (Here's where it starts to get more troubling.)

The idea of reconciling to your community through the priest was very new to me,”(really?) she says. “I grew up having an idea of personal sin that I needed to confess and atone for and do penance for. It’s almost easier to avoid the sacrament if you think of it in those terms because we confess our sins, in a way, at the beginning of Mass. But what I learned with my daughter is that in any sin, no matter how personal or private, you are not only turning away from God but you are turning away from your church community.” (o, give me a break. More of that "man is the center of the universe bs!)

Lane, who previously celebrated the sacrament of Reconciliation “once a decade,” says she has participated in the sacrament three times in the past nine months. “That’s a lot compared to my previous life,” she said. “Before I just never felt like I had a mortal sin I needed to confess.”

Lane says that during the time when she was away from the sacrament she relied on her own personal prayers and scriptural reflection for spiritual sustenance. In addition, confiding in her best friend and husband took the place of sacramental Reconciliation.

“As a conscientious adult I felt that I was capable of telling people I’m sorry and acknowledging my wrongdoings,” she says.

Thanks, Vatican II! It's all been working out great!

7 comments:

Dan said...

Hmmm let me see....Oh yes I say this all the time. There Is a Hell and people will go there if they do not go to confession. Bring back the fire nad brimstone. bring back the fear of God.

The Rockin' Traddy said...

Hell? What's that?

-Typical Novus Ordo Catholic

dougeller said...

Dan --

I couldn't agree more.

rockintraddy --

excellent post. Thanks!

Anonymous said...

I'm not sure what my parents were taught, but someone must not have taught plenary indulgences either. Yeah, you will be punished but making use of indulgences helps a bunch. I'm convinced my dad's generation had already 'checked out' and all the Latin stuff was just getting in the way. Very few actually believed anyway. Which made it easy when the changes came. Most were happy and just didn't care. So when those changes were actually made, people left in droves because the unchangeable was changed. I had a neighbor across the road who left for just that reason.

My fear about confession has always been making a good one. I've never feared the sacrament itself. It is a wonderful and beautiful sacrament.

Anonymous said...

Rockin' Traddy,

The real problem here is the perception that the Catholic Church changed everything in the 1960's. I recently had to explain that the Church still teaches the existence of Purgatory. A question asked in seriousness on Corbett the other day: "Does the Catholic church really believe in Papal infallibility anymore?"

The Rockin' Traddy said...

Nasman, right on. As the hippies used to say.

Yeh Raphael, they teach purgatory, but not so that you'd really notice it.

And that's the problem.

Whether or not VII really changed anything doesn't matter. Because after VII everything did change. There was no continuity in Catholic worship, culture, or education. Even the artwork and the design of churches worldwide changed. I have a hard time believing that this was not a calculated attempt to destroy the Church from within.

And it nearly worked.

Hopefully the "reform of the reform" is enough to undo the damage.

But the jury's out on that.

Dan said...

The Council had not alot to do with it. Like Raphael said people didn't care. Sadly the bishops didn't either with the exception of Bishop Hannan our Bishop. The era reeked for over creativity and relavance *sudders*. and the bishops were prob asleep during the council and did not listen. and carried out their own reform. again just a thought.